Build Self-Confidence And Be Happier Now

Learn How to Build Self-Confidence

A lot of people these days go through life so afraid—afraid to fail and also afraid to succeed. That’s not the kind of life that people are meant to live. Everybody, even the physically handicapped and the disadvantaged, is given the potential to be greater. With the right attitude and mind-set, people can accomplish so much in their lives.

However, due to life’s challenges, many easily fall into the pit of hopelessness and desperation. Some live most of their lives completely unhappy and full of regrets, and there are some who just no longer see the point of living – just like Mama in Queen’s song “Bohemian Rhapsody.” The rest of the world can only feel sorry for a short while…then life goes on for them.

If you have been questioning your self-worth and abilities because other people said you were not good enough, remember the words of Eleanor Roosevelt: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” So if you want to lay a solid foundation for a more meaningful andhappy life, it’s very important to build self-confidence now; you can seek professional assistance from life coaches and read self-help books. To help you get started, here are five rules you can follow to become happier and more confident:

1.     Stop comparing yourself to others and just focus on your personal goals.

2.     List your barriers and concerns. By jotting them down on paper, you instantly get them out of your head and into the open where you can start addressing them one by one. If somebody told you that you weren’t good enough and that person continues to pull you down, perhaps it would be better to have a talk with that person and express how you want him or her to stop bashing you. If he or she won’t stop with the belittling ways, maybe you should just cut ties and move on.

3.     Follow your passion. Think about what you enjoy and like to do with your free time--the things that you’re naturally good at, like dancing, singing or crafts. Even if success doesn’t come instantly, you’re likely to keep on pushing forward because it’s something that you know you love and you have the potential to be extraordinarily good at or successful with in the long run.

4.     Align yourself with the right people, the ones who will not tire of encouraging and supporting you, and the ones whose goals are similar to yours.

5.     Remind yourself it’s okay to be a little selfish at times. If you have spent most of your life putting your family’s needs first, you should reward yourself every now and then. It’s an effective way of demonstrating how proud you are of your own efforts.